A Primer to the Science of Safety & Connection

When was the last time you felt truly at ease? Perhaps it was during a warm conversation with a close friend, or maybe it was a quiet moment with a pet curled up beside you. These experiences are more than just pleasant memories; they’re vital to your health. Welcome to the world of the polyvagal theory, a groundbreaking concept developed by Dr. Stephen Porges that illuminates the deep connection between feeling safe, forming connections, and the body’s ability to heal.

Safety: More Than a Feeling

Polyvagal theory centers on the vagus nerve—the longest cranial nerve—which acts like a superhighway of communication between the brain and the body. According to Dr. Porges’ research, the vagus nerve regulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which governs our relaxation response. When we feel safe, our vagal tone improves, and our body shifts out of a state of defense and into one of rest, repair, and social engagement.

Imagine your nervous system as having a switchboard with three main settings:

  1. Social Engagement (Ventral Vagal State): When we feel calm and connected, the vagus nerve supports optimal digestion, heart rate, and immune function.
  2. Fight-or-Flight (Sympathetic Activation): In response to perceived danger, our body releases stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol.
  3. Shutdown (Dorsal Vagal State): When overwhelm becomes too great, the body conserves energy by retreating into a protective, withdrawn state.

When safety and connection are present, we spend more time in the social engagement system—the state where healing and growth flourish.

Connection Is Medicine

Dr. Porges emphasizes that connection is not just emotionally uplifting—it’s biologically essential. Social support has been shown to lower markers of inflammation, reduce blood pressure, and improve recovery from illness. In one study, individuals with strong social ties had a 50% higher likelihood of survival over a given time span than those without (Holt-Lunstad et al., 2010).

Feeling safe in relationships calms the nervous system, reducing the chronic stress response that fuels inflammation. Chronic inflammation, in turn, is linked to conditions like cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and depression. By fostering safety and connection, we engage the body’s innate mechanisms for reducing inflammation and restoring balance.

The Science of Safety

Research on polyvagal theory provides intriguing insights into how this process unfolds:

  • Vagal Tone and Health: Higher vagal tone, a measure of how well the vagus nerve functions, is associated with lower systemic inflammation and improved mental health outcomes (Porges, 2011).
  • Heart Rate Variability (HRV): HRV, an indicator of vagal tone, reflects the adaptability of the nervous system. Higher HRV is linked to resilience and better overall health.
  • Oxytocin Release: Social bonding activities—like hugging a loved one or engaging in eye contact—stimulate oxytocin release, which further enhances vagal activity.

Practical Ways to Foster Safety and Connection

If you’re wondering how to apply these principles in your own life, here are a few ideas:

  • Deep Breathing: Slow, diaphragmatic breathing stimulates the vagus nerve, shifting your nervous system into a state of relaxation.
  • Laughter and Play: Genuine laughter engages the social engagement system and boosts vagal tone.
  • Mindful Touch: Safe, nurturing touch (think massages or hand-holding) activates the parasympathetic system.
  • Community and Connection: Spend time with people who make you feel seen and valued. Prioritize relationships that enhance feelings of trust and safety.

Conclusion: Safety Is the Gateway to Healing

In a world that often glorifies busyness and productivity, it’s easy to overlook the profound healing power of safety and connection. Polyvagal theory reminds us that the simple act of feeling safe—whether it’s in the presence of a trusted friend, during a moment of mindfulness, or while savoring a good laugh—is not only pleasant but deeply therapeutic. By embracing these moments, we nourish our nervous system, lower inflammation, and invite true health and healing into our lives.

References

  • Porges, S. W. (2011). The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation. New York: W.W. Norton & Company.
  • Holt-Lunstad, J., Smith, T. B., & Layton, J. B. (2010). Social relationships and mortality risk: A meta-analytic review. PLOS Medicine, 7(7), e1000316.

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Ellison Clark, MS RDN LDN

Ellison is a licensed Registered Dietitian with a strong background in endocrinology and hormones. Originally from North Carolina, Ellison is a proud Carolina Tarheel alum, and met Dr. Brown while working in community nutrition at the foodbank where she was a program coordinator for Cooking Matters at the Store grocery store tours and educational programs. Ellison completed her Masters in Nutrition from Meredith College in Raleigh.

Her early career includes clinical nutrition positions with Atrium Health before settling into private practice to focus on endocrinology and hormone health. Her continuing education training has focused on PCOS, nutrition and gut health.

Ellison sees clients in person in Wilmington, and via telehealth.

Dr. Jill Brown, DCN RDN LDN IFNCP CLT

Integrative Dietitian and Founder

Dr. Jill Brown is a licensed Registered Dietitian and Board Certified Functional Nutrition Certified Practitioner. Originally from the Midwest, Dr. Brown completed undergraduate studies in Education at Texas Woman’s University, a Masters in Nutrition from Meredith College, and a Doctorate in Clinical Nutrition from Maryland University of Integrative Health.

Her early career started in Neonatal Intensive Care at both UNC and Duke Hospitals and Diabetes Self Management Program. She later took on a leadership role with one of the Feeding America food banks as Director of Nutrition, setting into clinical roles at Duke Integrative Medicine and Kaizen Nutrition & Wellness.

She has extensive training in integrative and functional nutrition as well as several complementary modalities including Clinical Aromatherapy, Polyvagal Theory, Herbal Medicine, Functional Women’s Health, Heart Math®, and Reiki Energy Healing.

Dr. Brown sees clients at her home office in Mebane, and via telehealth.